In my time dating I have come across a phenomenon that I like to call "Dating by Committee". This is when a man or a woman needs approval by their friends to date someone seriously. I'm sure that most people have experienced something similar to this and I would like to know how you feel about it.
In my opinion it is hard enough to have one successful relationship and keep one person happy. Having to worry about pleasing the personalities of 3 or 4 friends is 3 or 4 times harder. At what point do people who employ this tactic realize that not in all cases are your friends looking out for your best. There are friends who get jealous of you because they are single. There are friends who are upset because your boyfriend or girlfriend is more attractive or successful than theirs. There are friends who want you for themselves and just don't want to share you.
If you believe that none of your friends fall into one or more of these categories then you are misled. It's time people start realizing that friends are great and friends will be there for you most of the time but in the end there is only ONE person that is going to be there for you always and that's YOU. Live your life for you and not for someone else.
I'm glad recently I have been associating myself with women that realize this.
4 comments:
No matter how many times your friends may or may not agree with your choices it's usually a common standard for them to agree with you when its of convenience to them.
I couldn't have said it better. Thank you for your comment.
i agree, and have experienced this...although i must say, having family against a relationship is much worse...and not always are they doing it for the "right" reasons. but definitely do what YOU wanna do, it's your life...whatever makes you happy is what's right for you. everyone else can live their own lives.
-debbie
You're right Debbie, having family against you is much worse. The difference being that friends are usually with you out of convenience as Anonymous put so well.
Hopefully familial opinions have SOME of your well being in mind.
In the end as you said it is your life and that is who you must please.
-E
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