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11 July 2009

Letting yourself go

Have you ever been dating anyone and held back saying something you really mean because you didn't want to seem weak? I know it has happened to me and most likely everyone at some point. Have you ever sat back to think about all the things you might have missed out because of that? I have realized that we need to go with the flow, say what you feel, text the person when you want to text them, call and say the things you really mean. There is no use hiding your feelings. Our society is too fake as it is. By admitting these things to our significant other and more importantly ourselves we get closer to living the most fulfilling lives possible.

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

Maya Angelou once said "People will forget what you did, people will forget what you said, but they will will never forget how you made them feel." Sure, holding back to you may be defined as "weak" but to most it screams cowardly. I applaud your self realization in this blog post but did you really need a public social networking tool to announce it to the world? Get over yourself... and do it quickly.

Unknown said...

i don't know what that other comment is all about but i agree 123%, to be exact! and i began to realize and put that thought into action just recently...and you know what, i don't care if it's weak, or if it's looked down upon, it makes me feel good, letting people know what i'm thinking, when i'm thinking it and for the most part, i've gotten good feedback. i once told a friend, pride doesn't matter when you love someone so much...and i still believe that is the truest thing we have. love breaks all the rules, it pushes boundaries...it's real. and we should strive to be as real as we can be, even if it does mean that weaker minds will frown upon it. :)
-debbie

Frecci said...

Thank you for your comment Anonymous. I wanted to clarify a few things for you though:

Maya Angelou's quote while eloquent states almost no truth. I have never forgotten Maya Angelou or her contributions yet the woman's writing has never invoked any emotion in me. I'm also certain that the world as we know it will not forget what she did or said. I would focus less attention on telling someone to get over themselves and more on finding a quote that means something when dissected.

People hold feelings back so they do not appear weak to another person or group. I am not saying the the act of holding feelings back is weak. Nor do I define it as weak.

I decided to write this blog as a discussion topic, not because I had any sort of self-realization. My blog attempts to point out that our society is always hiding behind something as is evidenced by your anonymous post. The topic that I was highlighting happens to be dating. If my post got anyone thinking or at least discussing the fact that we have become a "politically correct" and increasingly fake society then I have succeeded. Maybe you, Debbie, and myself can actually start to change things.

Anonymous, while I appreciate your comment I don't need you or anyone to applaud anything I do. That is the point of the post. We spend too much time not saying or doing things because of the opinions of others. I think you should do things because you feel they are right, not because we are looking for others to back us. We do too much expecting to be accepted by our friends, families, or even strangers.

What I'm saying is that the next time we want to hug someone or kiss someone in public forget about what strangers think or even friends for that matter. Kiss your guy or girl in public, criticize the government, tell a a joke about Hispanics, Blacks, or midgets without worrying.

Obviously you missed the point.

 
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